Suicide Awareness

There is such a high stigma when it comes to mental health, especially suicide. No one seems to want to talk about the truth when it comes to the effects of mental health and how it can change all aspects of life. When someone is sick we tell them to rest or go to the doctor. But when it comes to mental health and not feeling well no one seems to want to support the person or they are too afraid to talk with the person through their struggle. I hear a lot of people telling others, when they are mentally not feeling well, to "snap out of it" or "your life isn't as bad as others." These are not helpful comments to make when someone is crying out for love and support. Someone can't just snap out of depression. Someone can't just make their trauma go away. These are real life situations that are happening and everyone processes things differently. If we showed more empathy and love, we would have a better understanding of how the person is actually doing. When a friend starts pulling away and isolating, instead of reacting, making it be about yourself, reach out to your friend to see how they are doing. Maybe they are isolating because they lost someone dear to them. Maybe they are depressed and having a hard time getting out of bed. Maybe they just need someone to talk to. Instead of reacting, we need to take the time to understand.

If someone does tell you that they are feeling suicidal, listen first to what they are telling you. Don't react. Ask them what they need from you. Don't tell them that their thoughts or feelings aren't valid because to them their situation is real for them. It can be frightening to hear that your friend is at this point in their life but listen to them non-judgmentally. Don't downplay what they are telling you and offer encouragement. If you feel like your friend needs additional help, ask them if they've thought about seeking treatment with a therapist. Depending on the severity or urgency of the situation, you might need to help them find a mental health hospital but be there to walk them through it. Remind them that they are not alone. Talking about suicide can seem scary but know that you have the tools within yourself to listen and act accordingling to the situation.